Most of us have heard of the benefits of affirmations. I had never really taken the time and effort to construct them, and was skeptical that they would have any impact on me anyway. Last year, while listening to Effortless Success: Living the Law of Attraction, I was instructed to write powerful affirmations and repeat them daily. And I did. At first, I felt silly. I also felt like I was fibbing big time. My affirmations dealt with the way I wanted to feel and be, and I wasn’t nearly there. But after a few weeks, I noticed a change when I spoke my affirmations out loud. I was starting to believe them and that I could make these things I was saying true. I shared the following affirmation with a few friends, and they wanted to adopt it as their own because of the power of the message: I am effortlessly attracting positive opportunities, positive people, joy, and success. When I found myself in a mood that wasn’t to my liking, I would repeat this statement (and try to mean it) and it usually broke me out of my funk.
I have to say, as a former critic, that affirmations can be a very useful tool. The power isn’t in the words. The power isn’t in repeating them out loud. The power IS in hearing yourself say the statement, taking the words in, noticing how you respond to them, and dealing with the reaction. You can repeat affirmations over and over until you’re a nice shade of blue, but if you think what you’re saying is a bunch of baloney, it’s about as useful as repeating the alphabet. When my inner voice laughed, cringed, heckled, or lashed out at me upon hearing an affirmation, I stopped and used the Sedona Method of release. If you’re not familiar with this technique, here is a quick rundown. First, notice how you’re feeling. You don’t have to necessarily identify or categorize the emotion, just feel it. Then ask yourself these 3 questions and answer honestly and without much thought: 1) Could I let this feeling go?/Could I welcome this feeling? (Yes or No.) 2) Would I? (Yes or No.) 3) When? (Now.) I like to answer the last question by taking a deep breath and saying “now” on the exhale. I seems to enhance my feeling of letting go. So using the Sedona Method in conjunction with my affirmations resulted in a gradual but significant shift in my thinking by dealing with my reactions.
I flipped back and forth on whether to share my current affirmations. The only thing holding me back was fear of ridicule and judgement, especially by those who know me. But in an effort to carry out my resolution to be more fearless, I decided to go for it. So here they are, folks. My affirmations…
- I am sexy, confident, and beautiful inside and out. I feel the need to explain. I can do cute. I’m comfortable with cute. Being “sexy” is like unknown territory that I periodically try to enter but am stopped at the border as a self-proclaimed impostor. I would like to add “sexy” to the list of characteristics I consider myself to have.
- I am an incredibly gifted writer who can successfully tackle any project. This is not something I go around telling others…but proclaiming this to myself boosts my confidence.
- The ingredients of my writing are inspiration, integrity, humor, passion, and soul. I want what I write to have meaning and make an impact in some way.
- I am effortlessly attracting positive opportunities, positive people, joy, and success. Love this! While the affirmation doesn’t necessarily create this result more, I tend to see the positives and opportunities tenfold in my daily life.
- I am continuously inspired, enlivened, and fulfilled by my relationships with family and friends. Family and friends are incredibly important to me. They contribute so much to my life and I don’t want to lose sight of that.
- I am an energetic, glowing vision of health! Reminds me to take care of and be good to myself.
- I have star power. I act like a star and deliver like a star. In my opinion, all bona fide stars exude confidence, professionalism, and bankability. They come to work ready to go and deliver an amazing performance/product every time.
I’ll tweak and tinker with my affirmations as my goals and needs change. At some point, I might decide to let go of an affirmation that becomes part of me and doesn’t need reinforcement, and add another. Do any of you use affirmations? If so, what is your experience with them? Have you found them to be beneficial?