Our Song Is More Than A Pretty Tune

[picapp align=”center” wrap=”false” link=”term=couple+dancing&iid=5297930″ src=”b/9/c/5/Dancing_dced.jpg?adImageId=10273395&imageId=5297930″ width=”234″ height=”234″ /]Before meeting my husband, I’d never had a couple’s song.  Sure, there were songs that would remind me of a particular boyfriend, but never could I proclaim, “That’s our song!”  I love that our song is so meaningful to us and elicits emotion every time–whether it’s getting choked up or entering a comforting, zen-like state.  I don’t know how other couples decide upon a song, but ours came about at home one night.  Coldplay’s album X&Y was playing and Fix You queued up.   It’s a slow song in the beginning (click here for a snippet), and I suggested we dance.  I’m not talking Dancing With The Stars moves here, more like high school dancing–arms around each other in a swaying, stationary hug.  The following are the song’s lyrics:

When you try your best, but you don’t succeed

When you get what you want, but not what you need

When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep

Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down on your face

When you lose something you can’t replace

When you love someone, but it goes to waste

Could it be worse?

Chorus: (Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you)

And high up above or down below

When you’re too in love to let it go

If you never try you’ll never know

Just what you’re worth


Tears stream down on your face

When you lose something you cannot replace

Tears stream down on your face

And I…

Tears stream down on your face

I promise you I will learn from my mistakes

Tears stream down your face

And I…

Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you

[picapp align=”left” wrap=”true” link=”term=coldplay&iid=1818246″ src=”a/f/3/6/Coldplay_3438.jpg?adImageId=10173691&imageId=1818246″ width=”234″ height=”312″ /]Halfway through the song, the slow tempo and simple vocals crescendo to a powerful guitar and drum beat with emotional lyrics and layered vocals.  By the end, I had tears escaping from my too-full eyes, and even my husband was a little misty (Shhh! Don’t tell!).  I think the song touched us on a few levels. Firstly, it’s a beautiful song.  Secondly, the lyrics spoke to the part of us that had been damaged by past relationships and was raw and shielding itself from additional pain.  Fortunately, we both took one more chance at love and were rewarded by finding our soulmate.  Thirdly, there is the promise to mend all those broken bits and heal them with love, determination, and steadfastness.  My husband has healed whatever holes I had in my heart and self-esteem by his unwavering love, support, and encouragement.  This is my interpretation of my favorite lines in the song, the chorus:

Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you

Together, we are at home

Together, we grow whole

Together, we are complete

It’s inevitable that we will mess up in our relationship, but because our love for each other is so strong, we will work through it and–as the song says–learn from our mistakes.  And I think that’s all you can do.

If you have a couple’s song, I’d love to hear what it is and the story behind it!

2 thoughts on “Our Song Is More Than A Pretty Tune

  1. Jill says:

    How insightful! It’s true how much of an impact lyrics and tune can have on reinforcing the meaning of a relationship. I have been married to my first and only husband (and how many can say that?) for going on to 37 years. When we first met and got married, “our song” was a simple one: Colour My World-by Chicago. For you ‘young ones’ you may not be familiar with the song; the lyrics are simple-
    “As time goes on, I realize, just what you mean to me. And now, now that you’re near, promise your love that I’ve waited to share. And dreams, of our moments together. Color my world with hope–of loving you.”

    After seven years of marriage, and that many years of marriage ‘experience’- Kenny Rogers released his hit song “Through the Years.” Well, that did it! It became “our song” and as indicated by the title, as our marriage progressed ‘through the years’ the lyrics have come to express the reality of our relationship. In truth, I cannot listen to the song without welling up in tears of appreciation for the life we have together. I think the most powerful verses in the song that I can relate to is “through the years, when everything went wrong, together we were strong, I know that I belonged right here with you…Through the years I never had a doubt, we’d always work things out. I’ve learned what love’s about, by loving you, through the years.”


    • Kristin Conroy says:

      Jill, what great songs! It’s interesting that as you evolved as a couple, your song changed as well. Your current couple’s song has very powerful lyrics that you obviously connect strongly to. Thank you so much for sharing your story!


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